Masks

We all live lives divided.  We have two people within us, each vying for control.  One is the person we think we should be, who says and does what is safe and expected.  The other is the person we long to be, the one who lives a life beyond our wildest dreams.  We fear we cannot ever be that person, so instead we fall back on what we usually do, on what we think we are supposed to do.

The person you long to be is who you really are.  Do you wish you were more adventurous, more daring, more outgoing?  Then that is your true self, and the side of you that turns away from risk is a mask.  Do you want to be creative, or strong, or nurturing?  You would not wish for it if it was not already inside you, fighting for your attention.

Does your true self feel far away, impossible to cultivate?  Begin with something small.  Start slowly; allow yourself to practice being who you were meant to be.  One of the happiest days of my life was when I decided to simply accept that I was who I wanted to be, that all the qualities I longed for were already mine.  I began by pretending that was true, by acting as if I was the person I most wanted to be.  The role fit like a glove.  I found that, once you begin, it is surprisingly easy to be who you really are.

The only trick is this–you cannot force yourself into a role you (or others) think you “should” play.  It will not fit; it will not make you feel happy, peaceful or free.  But when you play the role that is authentic to you, you find yourself growing into your dreams.

Loving Now

Would you be happy?  Then love where you are now.  Not later.  Not yesterday.  Not if only something was different.  Now, as it is, in all its imperfect perfection.

Wherever you are, however you feel, there is something to love.  And when you focus on that, rather than on what you think is wrong, you allow your awareness of love and beauty to grow.

When we focus on the love and beauty that is in front of us, we stop sending our energy into the past or future.  We do our part and let the Universe do the rest.  We accept the abundance.  We get out of the way.

The future is not under our control.  But in this moment, we have a choice.  We can appreciate what is, or we can push it away.  What will you choose?

Trust love.  Know that all you have is all you need, and that if what you want does not appear, it is because something better will.  The shadows of the past and future are not real, but this moment is.  This moment is sacred.  Choose to fill it with love.

Everything Begins Within

Years ago, alone on a long car trip, I mused about my ideal partner.  I saw someone compassionate and kind, easy with himself and able to put others at ease as well.  I saw someone gentle, open to new ideas, able to enjoy the simple moments of life and to help others do the same.  And then, in a flash, I realized–I wasn’t fantasizing about a love affair.  I was seeing a vision of who I wanted to be.

In both our daydreams and our waking lives, we often project onto others both our hopes and our fears.  We are annoyed by qualities we fear we possess; we long for people who embody the type of person we want to be.  But because no relationship can ever replace the one you have with yourself, you cannot find without what you have not found within.

Once we realize that, and learn to cultivate within ourselves the qualities we admire in others, we find that we are the ones we have been waiting for.  And that others who have those same qualities are drawn to us effortlessly, naturally, reflecting back to us the person we are, the person we have become.

You don’t need anyone to complete you; you are already complete.  Everything you long for, everything you long to be, is already a part of you, waiting for you to realize it.  I once played a game with family and friends, asking each one what quality they most wished they possessed.  Without exception, every single person answered with something that they not only already had, but had in abundance.  One, the soul of kindness and patience, wanted to be more kind and patient.  Another, always organized to the last detail, wanted to be more organized.  The life of the party wanted to be friendlier.  I said I wanted to be calmer, serene no matter the circumstances; everyone laughed.

Let your friends and partners be your playmates, sources of joy and strength in your life, but remember that everything you long for already exists within your own soul.  Once you do, you cannot help but find it everywhere you look.

Following The Turquoise Path

It was the windiest day I’ve ever seen.  I was driving through Winslow, Arizona with my mother, sister and aunt.  This was not a usual windstorm–the wind was so powerful that the air was thick with dust, trees were bent over and the interstate was shut down.  We were stuck, in a town that seemed to offer nothing but wind.  Businesses were boarded up, gas stations abandoned.  What was once a thriving railway stop was now empty, all but deserted.

We were tired, hungry and thirsty.  The wind buffeted the sides of the car so fiercely that staying where we were did not feel safe.  Yet we did not know where to go.  That was when I saw a sign, an arrow pointing towards “The Turquoise Room.”

Most of the town’s restaurants and shops appeared to be closed; there was no way to know that this one would be any different.  But I have always loved the shades of blue and green, turquoise most of all.  These colors call to me, sing to me.  So I asked my mother, who was driving, to follow the sign.  It led us to a beautiful old hotel, housing a restaurant and bar called the Turquoise Room.  It was a place of beauty within the windstorm.  A place of peace.  We settled in, and were served food and drinks just before the electricity died.  As we enjoyed our meal by candlelight, a friendly waiter told us about another route we could take to Sedona, one through the mountains, out of the wind.

Intuition speaks to each of us differently, in ways unique to who we are and what we love.  In ways that only we can hear.  But when you learn to listen, when you learn to follow, you will find yourself led to exactly where you need to be.

May you find your own turquoise path.  May it lead you to joy.

Scattering Light Interviewed By Serene Wellness

“A Scattering of Light…is truly beautiful and inspiring–just like a beautiful butterfly, the words fly off the page and into your heart…  [I]t will stir your soul and awaken beauty, enchantment and magic within your day.”

-Serene Wellness, the Holistic Health and Wellness Project

Claire-Maree Charters, founder of the Serene Wellness Group and the creator of Serene Wellness:  The Holistic Health and Wellness Project, recently interviewed me about my creation of “A Scattering of Light,” what inspires me, how I define serenity and beauty, what brings me joy, how I stay balanced and my philosophy on life, health and well-being.  The article, Find Some Peace and Comfort on a Windy Day, is available here.

Serene Wellness is a beautiful creation, featuring articles designed to inspire others to live healthy and happy lives.  You can find information here about simplicity, minimalism, health and beauty.  Be sure to check out her Modern Zen Girl page and green smoothie recipes!

Dawn

Morning opens a door with help for those who don’t ask for any.

~Rumi

There comes a day when you know you are ready.  When you are tired of playing with the concepts of love, trust and beauty; when you are tired of experimenting with all the different forms of meditation and philosophy.  You know it is time to trust, to give, to shine.  You are tired of waiting for a sudden flash of inspiration and enlightenment.  You are ready to live in joy and peace.  Wherever you are, however you feel, whatever your life looks like, you are ready to see the beauty in it and in yourself.

You have tasted freedom before.  You have felt moments of peace, of connection, of meaning.  You have hoped, dreamed and prayed, and you are ready for more.

Any day can be the day when you decide to be who you really are.  Any day can be the birth of your true self.  At any moment, you can look around and find beauty, feel peace, know love.  Make this moment that moment.  Choose to be free.  As often as you need to; as often as you want to.  Any moment may be the dawn of a new day.  Any moment may signal the start of something new, something wonderful.  At any moment, you can fall into yourself and find what you have been seeking.

Dance With Desire

What is it that you desire?  What do you long for?  Do you enjoy your desires, secure in the knowledge that all you could ever want or need will be yours?  Or do you struggle against them, deny them, find in your longings an excuse to suffer and focus on what you lack?

Understand the true nature of your desires:  they show you who you are, and who you want to be.  There is no reason for jealousy or suffering.  Look around you–so often what we want we have already, for love, abundance and beauty come in endless forms.  If not, know that your desires are your guide, leading you toward the future.  Perhaps not the future you expect, perhaps not the exact replica of your visions, but nevertheless a glimpse into what is forming around you.

What we desire most is to feel.  The desired object, experience or person is not so deeply longed for as the feeling of love, safety, peace, adventure or passion.  Feelings are our truest, deepest desires.  Locate the truth of your dream, and the ways to fulfill it will be limitless.  Problems will become possibilities, a chance to use your creativity and vision.

Open your heart to your desires.  Let them teach you who you are and who you may be.  Know that they are yours, waiting for you to claim them.

From Darkness Into Light

There is nothing you cannot love.  There is nothing that does not already love you.

Would you transform darkness into light?  Then find the beauty that already exists around you and within you.  Let your inner wisdom guide you; tap into your spirit, your love and your strength.  That is your true compass, not the shadows you see in the night.

Dare to feel what hurts and what heals.  Don’t cling to life or push it away.   Love what is in you to love.  Do what is before you to do.  Be who it is in you to be.

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