No matter how much someone loves you, how long they’ve known you, or how deeply they care, they cannot read your mind. We often fall into the trap of expecting others to figure out what we want. We say things like “if you really knew me” or “if you really loved me” you would know what it is I want. We make it a test of love, a test of faith. And yet–don’t we usually demand that others figure out what we want because we ourselves aren’t sure? Or, worse yet, because we are afraid to speak up and be honest about our true desires?
Instead of taking the time to ask ourselves what it is we really desire, we focus on all the things we don’t want, and blame others for not solving our problems. But who could? Who could ever know what it is we truly desire better than we do? No one sees the world quite the same way you do. No one else has your unique heart, mind and soul. No one is better equipped than you to determine what you want out of life.
Don’t expect others to be mind-readers; don’t pretend you are one. Take the time to investigate your true and deep desires, and then ask for what you want.